to be able to see your own destiny line stretching out before you. to be able to give up your own ego desires and recognize that that is not the direction. to stop knocking on all the doors that will not open and turning around and there is a gorgeous threshold, blue and gold, ready for you to walk through. knowing that whatever the anguish of the pain of the illness, whatever the anguish of the pain of the marriage, those are the flames that are bringing out your soul in all its strength."